They’re All the Same

One of the things you’ll hear people say is “All those Asian people look alike”.  And… to a certain extent, that’s true.   Us midwesterners aren’t used to Asian features, so we tend to notice the “these people don’t look like us” stuff first–and not get past it.

While I was never at the point of “they all look exactly alike”, I did have a hard time getting past the “They all look Chinese” part.  🙂  After about two months, I became so used to Asian features, that I stopped seeing the Asian features, and was able to pay more attention to the individual features.

Now… they look just like us.  I look and I see the hillbilly, the diva, the gomer, the pretty boy, the sorority girl, etc.  And, of course, I see exactly how different all the individuals are (though I swear a couple of my guys are twins by different mothers).

Today on the way to work, a guy on a scooter drove by and it was really weird… My family will laugh at this, but what went through my mind when I saw him was: “If Uncle Mike had been born in China….”

Good People

Jessie and Cathy
The one on the left

A couple weeks ago, one of my favorite students left the school.  She is more than just a student, she’s a friend.    We met today to  catch up before she heads back to her home in the north.

Jessie is a wonderful young woman.  From the start, she’s been a friend to me and helped me to acclimate to Chinese culture.  She’s brought me gifts of tea from her brother and her boyfriend.  And, most of all, we’ve sat and laughed at these “southerners” and their inability to handle  anything that approaches a real winter.

She’s heading back home next Friday.   Home for her is the north eastern corner of China.  From what she says, it sounds a lot like Wisconsin.  She’s offered to help me come up to visit  during the Spring Festival.  If  work allows for it, I’ll definitely take her up on it.   I’d like to see a different side of Chinese culture–and having a friend to walk me through it would be wonderful.

She took me out for Korean food.  Patrick (my roommate) has  taken me to this restaurant once before, but he was more reserved in what he ordered.  Jessie went all-out to introduce me to Korean cuisine.  I think it was a good thing that I’d already had a “mild” introduction to Korean food via Patrick.   While I’m an adventurous man, I prefer to understand the basics before I throw caution to the wind.  Patrick showed me the basics of Korean food.  Knowing what they consider to be “mild” and “spicy” gave me a metric on which to base my understanding of their food.

Jessie isn’t your typical  Chinese woman.  First of all, she’s not entirely Chinese.  Her ancestors come from Korea and Russia, as well as China.  She’s a strong and independent woman who has traveled extensively.  She speaks at least 4 languages (Mandarin, Korean, Japanese, English).  And… she’s just “good people”.

I trust her.  I let her order the entire meal–including an interesting alcohol that she insisted needed  to be “infused” with fresh cucumbers before  drinking[1].  It was *really* good.  (Annette?  Are you paying attention?)  We had shaved  beef (paper-thin!) and what I can only describe as ultra-thick bacon–both cooked right at the table.  The proper way to eat them is to put them on a leaf of lettuce, add slices of garlic, scallion, and/or cucumber, toss in some flavored  soy paste, and stuff it in your mouth.   With a little tweaking, it could be a great bar food.

I have come to know quite a few people in China.  While I am on friendly terms with almost all of them, Jessie is the first one that I would consider “a friend”.  Let me put it this way:  if I ever find myself in trouble with the law in China, she’ll be the first one I call.  She may not be able to help me, but I’m betting she knows who can–and she’d be willing to send those people my way.


[1] Slice up a fresh cucumber into  shoelace-sized  strips, put them in a carafe and soak them in your favorite vodka. Then drink the vodka.

Dear Santa

This year for Christmas, I would like…  Silence.

One day without piano lessons from the neighbors to the west, and drumming practice from the neighbors on the right; without door slamming or brooms being banged against the metal railing in the hallway.

One day without the PA system from the school at the end of the block, and the military-like shouting coming from… well, I’m not sure where that’s coming from.

One day without people shouting in the street, without fireworks going off at 8 am, and without the roar of poorly-maintained cars and bicycles squeaking, rattling, and clanging down the street.

And one day… oh please, just one day, without the constant shriek of car horns at every hour of the day and night.